Frequently Asked Questions
Below are a few questions we are most frequently asked in regards to our work.
We hope you find the information useful. Should you require any further information please feel free to contact us.
What is unique and different in this work from other relationship models?
Instead of having a three-way conversation about your relationship where the therapist often serves as a bridge for the two of you, you will be coached in how to cross the bridge between the two of you. This is a fundamental experiential skill that will benefit all your relationships so it makes sense to let someone show you how and coach you until both of you are feeling more confident in consciously creating conversations this way. Right from the first session you have a new way of thinking about, and doing, your conversations.
The therapist becomes more of a coach in helping you to hold the safe connection between the two of you while you talk about those things that are so important for you to talk about.
Does your work apply to anyone and everyone?
Yes! Our work works well with all couples regardless of their sexual orientation, religion, ethnic or racial background and personal history
I'm single - is there anything this work can do for me?
Absolutely! As a single person you have the perfect opportunity to begin the work necessary for future relationship. Therapy will help you:
Become more aware of your own childhood and how you were shaped by it.
Begin understanding more fully why you chose certain partners in the past.
Understand repetitive patterns you experience in your relationships and why they occur.
All of this will help you know yourself better and have more connected relationships.
Do you have experience with gay and lesbian couples?
Yes!. We welcome all couples, and many gay and lesbian couples do attend our workshops and private sessions. Our teachings are universal for everyone because the focus is entirely on the relationship, not on a couple’s religion, race or sexual orientation.
If you have more questions or need more information – please contact us!
What does working with you look like?
Do you provide couples therapy on an hourly or weekly basis?
Yes! Noa Rockman runs a successful busy private practice. Individual sessions are from one hour or more and Couple Sessions are from two or more hours to day long Intensives.
You can contact Noa directly:
Noa Rockman 07963801906 www.noarockman.co.uk
Will this work really transform my relationship?
Let’s be honest – nobody but you or you and your partner can actually change your relationship.
However, we want to offer you new and transforming ideas and tools so you can navigate the more challenging spaces within your relationship safely and effectively.
With new eyes many of your frustrations will dissolve and you will acquire new ways of being that will restore your connection with your partner and within yourself.
What if my partner doesn't want to come to therapy?
It is quite common that initially one person within the relationship wants to do the work more than the other.
We find many times that lack of information and fear are at the heart of refusing to take part. We invite you to find compassion in yourself toward your partner and see if you can address the issue in a supportive way. We are a telephone call away and would be more than happy to have a short conversation with each of you, to explain our work and what it can do for your relationship. This often helps bring clarity and confidence for both parties to give it a try.
If your partner still won’t join you then we suggest you’ll listen to the following answer given by Harville Hendrix to a similar question here.
What if I want to end my relationship?
Whatever the stage of your relationship – romantic stage, conflict or even considering ending your relationship – this way of working can provide clarity about next steps and the skills you need to reach your goals.
Many couples find new hope and optimism as a result of what they learn through the process. Others discover that the energy and love has left their relationship and they decide to separate. Even if that’s your decision this provides a framework in which you can respectfully say good-bye. This is especially critical if you have children that you will be co-parenting. And whether you have children or not, it’s important to understand how you co-created your current relationship!
For the most part, the majority of couples leave therapy with hope for the road ahead and new energy, tools and skills to navigate any future difficulties.
Are your courses endorsed by any professional organizations?
The Encounter Learning Centre is endorsed by several professional organisations including the National Council for Psychotherapy (NCP) and the College of Relational and Sexual Therapists (COSRT).
In addition Noa is a member of the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) as well as an NCP Senior Accredited member and is also an Imago Relationship accredited Therapist.