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A TRUMP-et and the BLESSING of a Wake Up Call!

The Spanish poet, Antonio Machado, reminds us that on a daily basis we cling firmly to “consensus reality.” And then suddenly the forceful sound of a trumpet wakes us up. Read more…

What if America were a couple?

STOP!!!!

“Stop!” I say to the couple. 

I say it strongly. I say it decisively. I say it emphatically. My hand comes down between them, and I say Stop!

What am I stopping?

I am stopping 13 minutes of their toughest, most loaded conversation. I want to teach them a guiding principle, how to embrace the power of connection. And to do that I first invite them to enter into the “nightmare” of their relationship. Read more…

Moments of AWE: a Miraculous Emotion

“Leo, look at this sunset!” exclaimed my mother, her voice filled with joy, her face glowing, a radiant smile on her face. She was awe-struck! Read more…

5 great reasons to attend the Adventure in Intimacy Couples Workshop in Chesham, UK

Yumi and I are excited to tell you that therapists are able to receive 25.5 CPD hours for attending theAdventure In Intimacy workshop on 26-28 June in Chesham with their partner. We welcome you to join us.
The picture below, titled “Our space, their playground, our lives…” was sent to us by Yamel and Al, a couple who attended our June 2013 Adventure in Intimacy workshop in Miami, Florida. Read more…

Encounter-centered Couples Therapy: A Path to Relational Maturity

Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT) represents the crystalization of my 35 years of experience as a psychotherapist, using 20 of these years to work intensively with couples in a clinical couples laboratory. EcCT is an integrative relational model at the intersection of philosophy, clinical theory, organizational methodology and relational neurobiology. Read more…

Seven Great Reasons for Attending the EcCT Training

1- Discover the most effective approach to couples therapy

You will discover a structured, integrative, relational model for successfully guiding your couples to rise above their reactive “survival dance,” and for empowering them to welcome and embrace full aliveness in connection.

2- It’s time to learn about Three Invisible Connectors

You will learn about “three invisible connectors”, a new process that will motivate your couples to embrace an open growth mindset, and enable them to express emotional intimacy verbally, physically as well as sexually. Read more…

EcCT Training – Hedy’s Video Introduction

Watch and enjoy the new interview with Hedy Schleifer.  She will give you an in-depth look into Encounter-centered Couples Therapy. Watch here…

Creating Encounters – Generative Listening

How do we get to the True Encounter? And what is the distinction between Conflict Resolution and Conflict Dissolution?

I would like to share a story today that illustrates a special quality of listening which generates a true Encounter as well as Conflict Dissolution. Read more…

Why do we sometimes wait till there is a “Bang Bang” to make productive changes in our life?

“tap tap… Knock Knock… Bang Bang… CLOBBER CLOBBER.”

I have been wondering lately about the “tap tap… Knock Knock… Bang Bang… CLOBBER CLOBBER” theory of life. Read more…

What if you had a Happiness Re-set Button? Two Secrets about Happiness

“You have a wonderful happiness re-set button,” a friend told me the other day, when I described to her how high my spirits are in our new nest, in our new town, and in our new life.

A happiness re-set button? I was intrigued. I went looking for some of the recent thinking and research on the subject of happiness. Read more…

Circular Learning Theory

I have a great fascination with learning theories. Here is a very useful one that was taught to me by Avi Achiassaf, a friend in Israel.

He told me that most often people think about learning in a linear fashion. We learn more and more. However he said that what has been much more useful to him is the circular learning theory. We learn in increasingly bigger and bigger circles. Read more…